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Michael Oon - 05.20.2017
When you stop enjoying work, it could be a symptom of you not developing any further.
Michael Oon - 05.05.2017
No need to spice it up by saying "I don't think I can" or "Perhaps, it's not me" or "I shouldn't". It weakens your stand...
Michael Oon - 01.23.2017
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you audience is yawning or constantly checking their phones whilst you’re in the middle of delivering a presentation? Let me help you with these five little secrets that will not only engage, but will captivate your audience
Michael Oon - 12.29.2016
Being assertive doesn’t mean becoming aggressive. By asserting yourself, you are simply letting people know you have just as much right to your opinion as anyone else.
Initiator versus Victim
Michael Oon - 11.30.2016
People who are unhappy with work often say, ‘I don’t like where I am today, but I can’t do anything about it. The problems that I’m faced with are beyond my control.’ But by giving in to this victim mentality, they surrender themselves to a life that is idle and unfulfilling.
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Michael Oon - 05.05.2017
No need to spice it up by saying "I don't think I can" or "Perhaps, it's not me" or "I shouldn't". It weakens your stand...
Michael Oon - 12.29.2016
Being assertive doesn’t mean becoming aggressive. By asserting yourself, you are simply letting people know you have just as much right to your opinion as anyone else.
Initiator versus Victim
Michael Oon - 11.30.2016
People who are unhappy with work often say, ‘I don’t like where I am today, but I can’t do anything about it. The problems that I’m faced with are beyond my control.’ But by giving in to this victim mentality, they surrender themselves to a life that is idle and unfulfilling.
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When you stop enjoying work, it could be a symptom of you not developing any further.
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Michael Oon - 01.23.2017
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you audience is yawning or constantly checking their phones whilst you’re in the middle of delivering a presentation? Let me help you with these five little secrets that will not only engage, but will captivate your audience
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Michael Oon - 05.20.2017
When you stop enjoying work, it could be a symptom of you not developing any further.
Michael Oon - 05.05.2017
No need to spice it up by saying "I don't think I can" or "Perhaps, it's not me" or "I shouldn't". It weakens your stand...
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"Michael is a great mentor and coach. Our company has been using his services for three years. Together with him, we have solved a number of complex issues within our company. I would recommend Michael's service to anyone seeking significant improvement in their personal life as well as their business."
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Michael Oon - 01.23.2017
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you audience is yawning or constantly checking their phones whilst you’re in the middle of delivering a presentation? Let me help you with these five little secrets that will not only engage, but will captivate your audience
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Michael Oon - 12.29.2016
Being assertive doesn’t mean becoming aggressive. By asserting yourself, you are simply letting people know you have just as much right to your opinion as anyone else.
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Initiator versus Victim
Michael Oon - 11.30.2016
People who are unhappy with work often say, ‘I don’t like where I am today, but I can’t do anything about it. The problems that I’m faced with are beyond my control.’ But by giving in to this victim mentality, they surrender themselves to a life that is idle and unfulfilling.
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"Michael is a great mentor and coach. Our company has been using his services for three years. Together with him, we have solved a number of complex issues within our company. I would recommend Michael's service to anyone seeking significant improvement in their personal life as well as their business."
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Michael Oon - 12.29.2016
Being assertive doesn’t mean becoming aggressive. By asserting yourself, you are simply letting people know you have just as much right to your opinion as anyone else.
Initiator versus Victim
Michael Oon - 11.30.2016
People who are unhappy with work often say, ‘I don’t like where I am today, but I can’t do anything about it. The problems that I’m faced with are beyond my control.’ But by giving in to this victim mentality, they surrender themselves to a life that is idle and unfulfilling.
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"Michael is a great mentor and coach. Our company has been using his services for three years. Together with him, we have solved a number of complex issues within our company. I would recommend Michael's service to anyone seeking significant improvement in their personal life as well as their business."
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05.05.2017
Be Brave! Use the word 'No' when declining
No need to spice it up by saying "I don't think I can" or "Perhaps, it's not me" or "I shouldn't". It weakens your stand.
"No"
- Has power
- Communicates clearly where you stand
- Actually respects the listener by letting him/her know where you're at
- Does not compromise your basic right to refuse
- An honest "No" is better than a scared and non-committal "Yes"
Even if someone who expects a "Yes" from you gets a "No", they respect you for being clear and not
wishy-washy.
In other words, let your "Yes" be "Yes" and your "No" be "No".
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01.23.2017
5 Secrets to keep your Audience Captivated
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where your audience is yawning orconstantly checking their phones whilst you’re in the middle of delivering a presentation? It’s obvious they are not interested in what you’re saying.
Let me help you with these five little secrets that will not only engage, but will captivate your audience:
Tip #1 - Personalise Your Speech
Help your audience relate to your topic by firstly relating to you. Tell them a personal story. Make sure your story is relevant, concise and if possible, find one that is out-of-the-ordinary, vulnerable or humorous; something that is different from the usual. This will create curiosity and retain the listener’s attention.
Tip #2 - Describe Concept Before Details
State the idea first before plunging into details. The biggest mistake you can make is to jump straight into details before your audience is able to grasp what you’re trying to say.
Tip #3 - Beware of DT's
‘Drift Triggers,’ or ‘DTs’ in short, occur when you veer from the main point of your speech to discuss something that is irrelevant.
You think you can control yourself by briefly referring your funny encounter, but then without realising it, you’ve gotten yourself side tracked for 10 minutes. As for your audience, they are furious!
Tip #4 - Power of the Pause
Create suspense by punctuating your speech with a short pause every now and then. The pauses need to be strategically positioned.
Pause with an important question to see how the audience respond to it.
Pause when you have finished an extraordinary story.
The deliberate and emphatic pause allows your point to sink in. It gives them time to digest or challenge their thoughts.
Tip #5 - Finish Strong
Don’t introduce a new idea at the end. Remind the audience, one last time, what your message is all about with a personal story, a phrase, a poem or a quote. It is the last thing they hear and could be the part they remember you by most.
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12.29.2016
Assertiveness is not Aggressiveness
By Michael Oon
Have you ever tried to speak up about an issue, but stopped yourself because you were concerned that:
- Your timing was not right
- You may come across as arrogant
- Someone may be offended?
By holding back, you think this will be fine, as harmony is being maintained, right? Wrong. Let me clarify some of the common myths about what it means to be assertive.
Myth #1 – Assertiveness is not Aggressiveness
Being assertive doesn’t mean becoming aggressive. By asserting yourself, you are simply letting people know you have just as much right to your opinion as anyone else. It doesn’t require the need to raise your voice or puff out your chest. Express your points calmly and clearly to get your message across in an assertive manner.
Myth #2 – I will never be Assertive
‘I am what I am. I will never be assertive.’
Asserting yourself may be very daunting, especially if you’re the kind of person who likes to keep a low profile. However, some situations require you to step out of your comfort zone to ensure the job is done efficiently and effectively. So how do you do this if you’re not the assertive type? It’s simple. Just modify your quiet or shy behaviour for a short period of time, step into that uncomfortable space to get your point across and then you can happily revert back to your normal self once the job is done. Start small and keep practising. I promise, it gets easier with time!
Myth #3 – I will lose respect from others if I become Assertive
Quite the contrary. If you do not confront a subordinate who has done the wrong thing by your company, you’ve already lost respect from others in the team. When you deal with the perpetrator assertively, you win the respect of not only your direct reports but also your boss and peers.
Being assertive does not cause you to lose likeability or popularity; in fact, you get more respect from others.
Myth #4 – Say no is easier for others
Everyone can say ‘no’, including you. You just have to practice it. Start with something small initially. Then ramp this up slowly. For example, learn to say ‘no’ to eating out and let your colleagues know that you’d prefer to bring your own lunch on some days. Take baby steps in saying ‘no’ and you’ll be running with it in no time.
So don’t wait any longer. Get yourself started on improving your assertive skills.
Speak out. Speak up. Assert yourself!
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11.30.2016
Initiator versus Victim
People who are unhappy with work often say, ‘I don’t like where I am today, but I can’t do anything about it. The problems that I’m faced with are beyond my control.’ But by giving in to this victim mentality, they surrender themselves to a life that is idle and unfulfilling.
So how do you avoid a pathway void of opportunity? The answer is simple. Choose to be an initiator and you’ll start to take control of your destiny. It is, without a doubt, a far more satisfying route!
How do I know if I’m an initiator or a victim? Here are a few examples:
Initiative
Victim
Identifies the key issue. Comes up with solutions. Addresses the situation promptly.
Gives many reasons why it went wrong. When challenged, gives even more excuses.
Offers many ideas and develops strategies on how to improve the situation going forward.
Still thinking of more excuses to support why it is not your fault but that of others.
Owns the problem. Solves the problem.
Redirects the problem elsewhere. Blames others - uses the boss, peers, subordinates, clients, suppliers, the system, the company, situations, etc. - whoever is the easiest target.
Aims higher to allow for unknown factors that could sabotage the project.
Aims at what is given - no buffer for unknowns. Unknowns are excellent excuses for poor performance.
Constantly looking beyond the current circumstances. Extends oneself. Prepares, plans and addresses key issues way ahead of time.
Goes with the flow. Does not plan ahead. Just reacts to situations. Easily distracted. Defaults easily into comfort zones.
Always a step ahead. Timely.
Waits to be instructed. Needs constant reminders. Often behind schedules. Blames others for being late.
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Speak out. Speak up. Assert yourself!